Wednesday, June 20, 2018

USA Is Spiritually Bankrupt



I keep reading “This is not who we are as a country,” and yet this is, apparently, exactly who we are.  We are a spiritually bankrupt nation. While not every single person is in spiritual free-fall, collectively we are.  Here are just a few of the signs:

Operating from fear rather than love. This often takes the form of withdrawing behind the protection of rationality, moving into an intellectual, hypothetical realm when confronted with income and opportunity disparities, overt injustice, and sobbing children.

Putting stuff before people. We prioritize material over spiritual connections and place tasks before people in order to protect ourselves from feeling vulnerable. We have more storage units than affordable housing, each of us probably knows someone who hoards, and we shop and sell our stuff for entertainment rather than create music, art, or converse with each other. It’s easy to be in control when organizing a closet or shopping for the perfect item, much scarier to talk to people about their lives, listen to hard stories, and be present to radically different views.

Being materially comfortable but unwilling to share. When the Syrian refugee crisis began, I wanted each one of us in this wealthy nation with a spare bedroom to host a family for as long as needed, knowing that act of generosity would benefit our homes and communities for decades to come. Instead, our country admitted a tiny number of people in need.

Holding imaginary lines (borders) above human connection. Borders, like money and laws, are human constructs that can be changed when they no longer serve a life-giving purpose. That people are now traumatized because they are asking for help at our borders (at lower numbers than ever, by the way) demonstrates our spiritual bankruptcy.

Good news! Spiritual bankruptcy is reversible but only when it is acknowledged, which is a very humbling process. In fact, humility is the essence of spiritual fitness, and the USA has lacked that quality almost from its inception. The roots of today’s crisis are in the founding of this nation—genocide of Native people, systematic separation and destruction of those cultures and families, enslavement of Africans, separation of those families and destruction of those languages and spiritual practices. Our founders did not approach difference with curiosity and a willingness to learn, and that arrogance and entitlement persists today. It’s what keeps the Electoral College in place rather than one person-one vote, which has reversed two elections.

Becoming spiritually fit requires a paradigm shift of magnitude.  What restores a spiritually bankrupt state of being? Love. Hope. Humility. Responsibility. Awareness. Accountability.  If this is not the America we want to be, then we need to articulate that vision, use art and creative acts to imagine what we DO want, and create just laws that keep in check the worst of human qualities, such as greed and fear-based exclusion.

What might a well-nourished spirit do? 

If we had the courage to heed our hearts, many of us might head south to hold babies, comfort toddlers and free parents detained for the simple act of asking for help. We would witness in fierce and loving silence every single act our US gestapo, ICE, takes, and awaken the humanity in those guards who’ve been ordered not to hug a sobbing two year old. Those who conduct this president's diabolical plan to dismantle the remaining shreds of our democracy need to know that more people want to give, love, and connect than retreat behind a wall.  We, the most militarized nation on Earth, will not fund a new branch of the military. 

Waiting for permission, a leader, a movement to take action may be not be spiritually bankrupt, but it is spiritually timid. Wave after wave of loving bodies showing up during hard times can restore our humanity and reclaim our souls.




Monday, June 11, 2018

What Am I NOT Seeing?

I recently experienced an object lesson in empathy.  One afternoon a directee squinted into the sun as she sat down, and as I adjusted the blinds, it occurred to me I could rearrange the furniture so that she didn’t have to face the window. I’d often tinkered with the blinds without considering the possibility of moving furniture. Now we sit side by side with our backs to the sunlight.  Why did it take me five years to figure this out? Because my chair had its back to the window in an arrangement I had inherited, I really had no idea what life was like in the other chair.
What else have I inherited without questioning?  What social “furniture” should be moved to make lasting changes that benefit everyone?
I pride myself on being able to imagine others’ lives, but nothing compares to sitting in the other’s chair. My world was forever changed after living for a summer with a Muslim family in Turkey.  All the novels in the world couldn’t create that life-changing experience. How do we bridge differences we only imagine?
Recently, Loyola staff had a workshop on dismantling racism to examine our preconceived ideas, unexamined assumptions, and cultural blinders that prevent us from reaching as many people as we might. One lesson in the video we watched was that white people have the luxury of avoiding racists (including those in our own families) but people of color don’t have that luxury. So whites have a responsibility to confront racists, even over a dinner table. When has tending my comfort been the priority rather than starting a difficult conversation?
Jesus said it’s easy to love the lovable, but the real opportunity to see the Christ in others comes when our differences are the most apparent. I look forward to a year of rich discussions, new learnings, and growth as we put dismantling racism center stage for staff development. We hope to do more than adjust the curtains.